How to calm your mind from overthinking in a few minutes

On Saturday I was sitting with a friend in a shelter house in the mountains. There were some people around us, eating, talking. Next to us was a couple, a girl and boy. She was talking, he was silent, slightly bent and eating. The girl was describing business related issues, and the matters of the mind, speculating and imagining how people can work or grow faster, better. In her entire speech there was no single word of emotions or feelings, only strategies and thoughts. If I wanted to calm my mind from overthinking, this was not the way, I was sure.

They were close to us, and I had no choice but to listen. I felt so tired, and detached by listening to some parts of what she had to say. I felt no connection to another human being, only walls built by an intellect. And it made me tired. Moreover, the man the woman was with, did not say a word. Not even one.

To be in the head or feel

In our world, we live in our thoughts. We think, analyze, make strategies, we ponder about the past. We think about the future, and what to say. Moreover, we listen to our inner critique, which often tells us what we cannot do, and what we are not. Especially for us, women, thinking and analyzing shuts down our feelings, takes us into masculine energy, the doing, the taking action. In our jobs and projects it is perfectly fine. However, in our relationships, friendships, it simply becomes massivly tireing. As if all the thinking was about walls that shut down our hearts and true connection with another human being and ourselves. When we are in the head, we can hardly relax.

It makes you tired

Finally, in such mental states, in which we think and think, there is no true experience of what is happening. So we choose not what we really want, but what we think looks good. We choose fabrics not based on what feels good, under our fingers, but because something appears nice. Simply put, there is no time to touch and listen to what our bodies say. Similarly food that we eat does not give us the entire wealth of sensations, or is not fully nutritious. Because when we think and think, we tend to be somewhere else in our minds, imaginations, and not here and now, where the situation happens. We are partially here. And it makes us feel tired.

How to calm your mind from overthinking

Further, It happens as an escape from the uneasy feelings as well. We run away from them into thinking and doing. Additionally, no wonder we feel tired. Furthermore, in our heads, where thoughts never stop emerging is no place to simply be who we truly are, feel and experience. Albert Einstein said something profound: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”. What would this be? what should we do then to calm your mind?

Let’s be, let’s feel, for a moment. The thoughts are there in our heads. Travel to your own body, feel what it feels, in your stomach, belly, heart and lungs. In your fingers when you touch. Take a piece of cloth, touch it and sense its texture through your fingers. Smell it, take it to the skin of your face and pat it gently on it. To do it, it takes courage, it is brave, as you become vulnerable, so open to simly be you, so true and so beautiful by experiencing your true feelings.

Simplicity is a path to change here

Finally, this is how we open for ourselves and bring down the walls that keep us from simply being what and who we are now. Moreover, when you touch, you will know what serves you most, what is good for your skin, and what you like. You will go away from that which does not feel good with greater ease, and move towards that which does. Feel, touch the texture, smell, look. This is the truest path to relaxation, and one that does not need anything else to happen. You are you, and you celebrate the moment which happens through you. The beautiful human being, capable of everything.

How to calm your mind from overthinking? … let’s touch, taste and listen, feel the texture, softness, warmth or chill. State of calm that follows is beneficial to your sleep as well. The time before you fall asleep influences the quality of it. Read more about sleep in our article: “Sleep and relaxation“. What I shared here sounds to simple to be real? My question to you, if it is what you feel is: “Do things need to be complicated to bring results?“.

References

I have learned a lot about letting go, listening to the body and feelings from david Hawkins. Read more about him here: David Hawkins